Gary Oldman’s mistreatment

in the metoo era.

For the last four months, I have tried hard not to write anything dismissive about the metoo movement. Sex is neither a weapon to be used for control nor a tool for self-promoting and unfortunately has been used -still is?- that way in every aspect of every day life, including our work environment. Hollywood though, the entertainment/show business is a tricky place and I’m not certain change for the best is what they have in mind. Against my better judgement and critical thought process, I did hope for it.

Regardless of the proof-less accusations presented as facts, regardless of media and social media’s prosecution -they have attained the role of judge, jury and executioner quite successfully lately- and their attempt to stop the accused from defending themselves, regardless of knowing the very nature of Hollywood is sex and scandals, regardless all that I hoped the «movement» would work towards a decent result. Because, in fact, every victim need their justice and they have to be heard. In my opinion though and most probably history’s opinion too, it is highly undemocratic for every accuser to be considered a de facto victim a priori evidence (A/N. I did latin at school!). We would return to difficult times if that was the case. Add the actual (sic) fact social media/media don’t permit the accused to defend themselves and…. how do we really know who the victim who needs protection is?

But, if I or you mention every person has the same rights (right to be considered innocent until proven guilty for example) I am considered the enemy of something good and precious and life-changing. Why? Because the self-proclaimed -as I write this- victims of the oppressive and sexually harassing Hollywood had no rights or ways to defend themselves so the NDAs, the thousands of received money, the careers and luxurious film-star life they got our of their victimhood are not to be questioned.

Clearly, even in Hollywood, there are, were and most probably always will be people abused and used. At the same time, there were/are/will be others who not only used this abusive status-quo for their own personal success, but now use the victims’ plight to again promote their name brand. And they are not to be questioned because we have to believe everyone who claims to be a victim, no evidence needed because indeed others have been abused.

In normal (and I honestly don’t know what’s normal as we speak) circumstances, we’d use our common sense and separate the truth from the lies; we’d try to see each case individually so the victims find their justice. Which can only take place in a court of law, but WE DON’T CARE about it. Those accused falsely -and to be honest here, how can one be falsely accused? Someone lied with the intent to harm, nothing false here, nothing to suggest the accusation made by mistake are victims too. Don’t they need or deserve their justice too?

In all these cases, how do we know all accusers say the truth? At this point, to be brutally honest, I’m certain most people, most self-proclaimed social justice, feminist -add more labels here- warriors don’t care. Anything that will break their «women are blameless victims who are brave to speak now» narrative is deleted with no further thought.

And I knew all that from the start and while my democratic beliefs and instinct protested against this, I still didn’t want to write anything about it. Maybe it was laziness.

Little by little, however I understand the idea is indeed for the accused to not have the right to speak, to not have the right to present their side of the story and, worst of all, for most of them to not be brought to justice. What’s a bigger hit to the justice institution? The court’s decision to not matter.

And for these people, for most of the supporters of metoo and timesup, court decisions don’t matter. Which brings us to the reason of this entry. Gary Oldman being attacked in media and social media in the name of metoo and timesup. His right to win awards is being questioned because his «decency as a human being» is also questioned by social media and media alike.

What does that mean? It means that for a large percentage of the metoo folks it’s guilty even if proven innocent. Journalists, bloggers, feminists alike tweet, make posts, write articles in mainstream newspapers like the guardian questioning Hollywood’s honesty in regards to changing because of Gary Oldman’s acting awards for Churchill.

A quick telling of Gary Oldman’s -and I quote- «shady past» is that he was accused by his ex-wife for abuse of hers and their kids during their divorce and custody battle back in the early ’00s. As a result, after the police investigated and a trial took place, Mr. Oldman got sole custody of his kids and his ex-wife could only visit her kids with a supervisor. It needs to be said that her older child’s custody was won by her father, director David Fincher, as well.

But for many people -«respectable» journalists too- Gary Oldman is an abuser.

«Guilty even if proven innocent» is the verdict because the social media people «believe the victims». So courts, justice, laws, police, investigation, the accused’s rights, the accused proving to be innocent, the accuser proved to be a liar don’t matter.

It doesn’t matter if the accused is innocent as long as the narrative of big, bad male abuses poor, innocent -or not so innocent, women don’t have to be innocent to be victims, they can be guilty of abuse and it will still be the male’s fault- female. Because she said so and we have to believe the victims.

Gary Oldman’s name is being dragged all over social media and in articles written by «woke» feminist, social justice, male and female writers even though he proved to be innocent, is what in the end made me criticise metoo.

The narrative is wrong. And it’s dangerous. Rage and hate, bitterness and jealousy, and blindly believing accusations ruining people’s reputations to promote our agendas is not right. It is in fact dangerous. Because victims need to be heard and protected. While it distorts narratives, Gary Oldman proved in court he and his kids were the victims in his case. And they need to be heard and they need to respected like every other victim.

Just my opinion.




I could easily link to articles and court ruling, but all information is a search engine away.











if I wasn’t a cynic

If you can’t believe there’s an ounce of Honesty in Hollywood
Your words and beliefs may easily be misunderstood

Warning: my thoughts that follow may be considered offensive, tone-deaf, cynical and definitely not politically correct. Read at your own risk.

Let’s start at the beginning:
Am I against abuse at all forms? I am.
Am I against sexual abuse and/or harassment? I am.
Am I against abuse of power? Damn right I am.

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Are social media and media the new Weinstein?

Sure, young, innocent, naive actors don’t have to bow to his demands or have sex with him to move their careers forward, but what happens to those artists who don’t share the media’s ideals? What happens when x artist says something politically incorrect? Aren’t they racist? Misogynist? Sexist? Aren’t works of fiction judged…. criticised or reviewed if you prefer by how much they pander or not to media’s acceptable social justice?

Does it really matter if a film is well-directed or well-acted if it’s diverse enough, «woke» enough?

Do media even care about talent these days or do they promote «feminist» or «racially diverse» or «LGBT» movies even if their artistic merit is not the highest of the lot. Is it Wonder Woman (among others) as good as media made it to be? I just have questions here, I don’t have all the answers. I just wonder…

Maybe one day we will learn why Harvey Weinstein fell in such a short time. Most, if not all, liberal media turned against him in ways they didn’t dream to turn against D. Trump. And one of the biggest Hollywood Empires, Miramax, collapsed.

Like a house of cards. Or a domino.

Has anyone dared to support Weistein? I can’t think of any. But it was supposedly impossible for anyone, no matter how big or small they were in the industry, to go against Weistein. Until it wasn’t. Until media decided that it wasn’t impossible to go against him. For the last year and a half, I have followed liberal media such as buzzfeed, thedailybeast and even HuffingtonPost and cinema blogs like slashfilm and I have come to one conclusion; they have started a fight against and clearly they want to destroy «old» Hollywood and replace it with a new one.

Now, someone will say that is not bad. New blood is always good to any business, new ideas, new perspectives, new methods all well said. I agree. Why do we have to destroy the old one to get to the new? Why does the new have to be mostly/only politically correct oriented instead of talent oriented?

Thedailybeast about a month ago and the Independent  just yesterday after Gary Oldman won his (well deserved and if you ask me long-awaited) award published articles questioning if he should have won it, or if he deserves to win the Academy Award for best actor not because he didn’t give one of the best performances of the year, but because of a politically incorrect interview he gave in 2014 -for which he apologised later. Thebailybeast article goes as far as to more or less call him an abuser based on his ex wife’s accusation of about 18 years ago while the writer disregards the little detail (sic) he was innocent and was granted the custody of his then underage kids.

Not to mention the many articles that more or less ask Hollywood to never give work to Johnny Depp again. (see previous articles on the subject matter)

So what gives? If you disagree with them, it doesn’t matter if you’re Angela Lansbury, or Ian McKellen, or Denzel Washington or JK Rowling (and dare to cast Johnny Depp in your film) you’re the enemy. Your opinion, despite being years in the theatre and movie business, doesn’t matter. They will use their power and attempt to eat you -and your reputation, career, legacy, character- alive.

In the meantime, they will support and promote (quite glaringly obviously) any new artist who supports their opinions, their agenda, who share the same frame of mind, who believe in the absolute victimhood of groups of people, who throw the label of monster or abuser, or rapist, or oppressor with the easiest of ways and no evidence to support their claims and who, of course, have the «activist» in their social media account added next to «actor», «singer», «rapper» etc… Mind you, I don’t mean Mandy Patinkin whose activism is about refugees who drown in the cold waters of Mediterranean, but those who wear black in Awards Ceremonies and demonise men and victimise all women, even those who negotiated with their abusers to earn money decades before they decided they wanted to be victims again. Those deserve to be promoted by media, regardless their talent or no talent in the profession they chose to work. Like, who cares if they can act if they label themselves as feminists or LGBT or victims of abuse or strong, independent women who speak against the oppressive Hollywood system they gave up their own dignity to be part of.

Maybe actresses do not need to pretend to like Weinstein any longer because they have found a new promoter: Media and social media. Of course, just like Weinstein, media will attempt to crash and burn you if you don’t follow their orders. It’s kinda scary, no?

Update: January 31, 2018

The night of the Grammys, Steve Tyler held a party and raised $2.4 million for victims of sexual abuse. The event was a benefit for Janie’s Fund, an organization created by Tyler in partnership with Youth Villages to help young girls who are victims of abuse.

Nina Dobrev made the mistake to post photos of herself from the party with Johnny Depp (who was also in the event) in her social media accounts. Her posts got thousands of likes in IG and likes/retweets in Twitter. However, many people commented to her ordering her to delete the photos because she was with Johnny Depp who allegedly was abusive to his ex wife. No court proved the accusation was true, as his ex wife dropped her PRO request before its hearing.

People in social media -maybe Ms. Dobrev as well- are very vocal in regards to the #metoo and #timesup movements. Everything is every black and white with not a shade of grey in between. Nina Dobrev‘s icon is Time’s Up


These movements are supposedly for the empowerment of women in their employment environment, in regards to Ms. Dobrev in the post-Weinstein Hollywood. Ms. Dobrev was forced to take down her photos from her own social media because of bullying from people who support the above mentioned movements. And I repeat she was forced to take down her own photos.

I can explain the irony of it, spell it out, and write a long essay about it, but in the end it won’t matter. People are too set up in their own ideas and beliefs that they have become abusive and highly oppressive. And people, like Ms. Dobrev, will be forced to do things they don’t like because they are afraid for their future in their work.

Just like they did with Mr. Weinstein.

This time, same as before, they can say no; they can refuse to give power to anyone over themselves. They don’t.

Think about it; you’re an actor, you went to a party/a charity event and then you uploaded photographs of yourself with people attending the charity event. You are happy about them; if you weren’t you wouldn’t have post them. Let’s be honest. And then you get some rather insulting comments ordering you to delete them. And, for some reason (public relations, agent, manager) you have to take that photos that made you happy down because your following number in social media matters more than what made you happy.

So, in second thought, maybe they don’t have an alternative.

They are dictated what to do, what to say, what to post in their own social media accounts. Not to mention, some of them are forced to have social media accounts.

Big Brother is looking down at you.

About victims and monsters

and our inability to accept we are part of the problem


I can be very specific about some things I want to say or speak in general. Either way, I hope what I’m going to write here is easily understood.

First of all, when I say others have part of the blame in the Kevin Spacey situation, I definitely don’t put the blame on them about Kevin’s (alleged) actions. If true, he’s the only one responsible. He should be able to work with himself and ask forgiveness from his (alleged) victims and it’s up to them if they are strong enough to forgive them or not. Either way, it is not my bloody business.

The problem though is they made it my business. They accused him publicly in media (I have a one-side hate relationship with buzzfeed because I find their articles biased and filled with inaccuracies and at certain matters flat-out lies in order to support their (most often than not) correct ideas. However, in my opinion supporting an idea with lies to promote your own agenda is no different from what right-opionated media outlets do. And they pick famous people as their target for clickbaiting reason because after all, they run a business) & social media. And in the Johnny Depp case I had the displeasure of seeing one-sided reports of the legal procedure where they (media) tried to push one side of the story while the court documents presented a whole different situation. But, I digress. Bottom line, I don’t trust media. It’s the fault; left, right, people with agendas, self-proclaimed feminists, self-proclaimed activists… that’s not what I expect from journalists. I expect a well-rounded presentation of facts so I can decide what’s true and what’s wrong.

And I don’t get that.

So, I have a problem with the way events are being reported. I have a problem with the easiness words like «pedophile» and «rapist» are used like a candy.

Basically, I don’t have a problem believing Antony Rapp’s telling of events until media and social media took it and twisted it to be something that it wasn’t. You can be disappointed by Kevin’s action that night 31 years ago without shouting «pedophilia» (aka exclusive attraction to people YOUNGER than 13. Rapp was 14 & a half years old, if we want to be precise) and «rape» (there was clearly neither rape nor statutory rape because Rapp left on his own without being stopped). I can condemn Mr. Spacey for what he did, but not for what he didn’t do. You know?

And then there was the vulture interview with the guy who seemed deep into having researched what had happened to him but managed to misuse «pedophilia» again. Not to mention the outrageous heteronormativity that lurked all over it. Don’t worry, dear anonymous sir who had a previous older lover (family member nonetheless) we won’t for a moment believe you «bottomed» for Mr. Spacey when he «attempted to rape you». As if this man, with the kind of research he’s done on the matter wouldn’t call their previous sexual encounters as «rape». With this interview, even as I was thinking how inaccurate and stupid it was, I thought it would be impossible to watch another Kevin Spacey movie. So, job well done, I guess.

And then things got more mixed up; young men were advised to not go alone in his trailer or dressing room & young men were seeing coming and going in his trailer/dressing room. Basically, all encounters -very artistically- turned into some kind of twisting blackmailing from his side regardless if there was given consent or not.

Which is where I come to my problem with the metoo movement. All nice and well with it; however, it can transform (and already has happened) into a witch hunt. Because the metoo movement did brilliantly something social media do for quite a while now. It created perfect victims and perfect monsters. Victims with no accountability and mustache twirling villains ready to assault, rape, and harm said victims. And due to recent reporting of Weistein effectively stopping actors’ careers such as Mira Sorvino’s I will give him the characterization of monster.

However, I can’t help but cringe when I read Rose McGwan’s narcissistic tweets.

And as long as the metoo movement refuses to acknowledge that for every Weinstein victim there were 20 women willingly going to his bedroom to further their career, I refuse to take it seriously. How many times did you watch a movie and thought «Ok, but why does x actors keeps getting a job while they can’t act to save their lives?» How many times did you watch an award ceremony and the winners made you roll your eyes so hard it caused you a headache? Now, you may want to take all responsibility away from the «victim» but I can’t.

Is there a victim when there’s a financial or business transaction? Social media will say yes. Social media will also claim that a woman or a man using their sex-appeal to gain in a business that they are not good enough to be in it is slut-shaming & it’s wrong, wrong, wrong. McGowan took money from Weinstein thus making her traumatic experience a financial transaction and she was renegotiating a new deal before the story broke. And now, she tries to earn as much for her personally attacking everyone left and right, from B. Affleck to A. Milano.

Matt Damon said the obvious; groping is not rape. And 25+ thousand people signed to have him removed from a movie (I’m looking at Mr. Ridley Scott right now, because he’s the one who made it happen). I want even mention the amount of the ridiculous people have a role or a cameo in Ocean’s 11, but social media are happy with the movie because it’s an all female lead one. NewYorkTimes published an article about the «New Trailer: Ocean’s 8 with Sandra Bullock and Rihanna» because Rihanna is apparently more important & more acclaimed actress than Cate Blanchett, Ann Hathaway or Helena Bonham Carter.

This is Hollywood: you sell, they are going to use and take everything you have to offer, they will coddle you and your needs, enable and did I mention use you? Because they will. Until you become expendable. Because you’re a product and a broken product doesn’t sell. Oh you can be broken from before (most artists are) & they may break you more, but when that becomes public knowledge you’re gone.

But, don’t tell me the way this industry runs is not part of the problem. Don’t tell me that allure of world fame and money, parties, cars and jewellery won’t tempt you to forfeit your dignity, that it won’t twist your darkness into something more. Especially if you’re given power.

And we go back to Kevin Spacey and how he allegedly used his power to blackmail people to be with him? I was also ready to believe that accusation too, until the 81 story came out about how his 27 (then) victim of unwanted advances feared he was going to lose his job for denying him. To quote a fictional character «rules of good drama: start small and build». Only it’s a bit hard to believe 22-year-old Kevin Spacey who struggled to find a job after leaving Julliard had such a power. Yes, you take it too far and people will know it’s drama for the sake of drama at that point.

Where am I going with this? Hollywood discarded Kevin Spacey in ONE day. Just one day. They could do it 20 years ago. Yes, I’m sorry I can’t believe they didn’t know what he did…. they did. (And I can talk about how accepted such actions were by the industry) So, yes they are part of the problem. Not because they didn’t do it back then, not even because they did it now. No, no. It’s the self-righteous hypocrisy to believe they can present themselves to be moral and good and supporting the «good cause» thus totally different from big, bad Spacey. It’s their inability to take their responsibility in this whole mess that makes them part of the problem. In the exact same way as the metoo movement.

I’d still take Kevin Spacey over Rihanna in any movie…. but that’s just me.

Also, presumption of innocence is no longer with us, it took a hike to Mount Everest.

Media: You are doing it wrong.

Media: Media make it so difficult to believe what they write. It’s not my fault; it’s theirs.
There is something extremely wrong in the way they present news, in the way they form opinions and the way they push those opinions as facts. Media have power; I hardly care if they think their cause is noble if they constantly lie.

And I’ve noticed lately that when writers, editors, journalists’ lies are called out in social media they don’t apologise, they don’t admit they were wrong, but they present themselves as victims of anonymous trolls. Which means their lies were a conscious decision instead of a result of a bad research.

Think about it and think about it hard. Because you are manipulated by media all the time.

The power they hold over their audience makes them dangerous and highly oppressive for the same reason.

Allure  published Amber Heard’s interview by Danielle Pergament.

I won’t discuss about how the first idea the writer gives is the fact she’s drunk or that she «wants to be Amber Heard». It’s her choice to take an interview drunk. Drunk is the new sexy, I guess, but only in women. In men, it’s despicable.

Because, feminism.


She seriously informs us a. she’s drunk and b. she isn’t professional. Her words, not mine.

But then the lies begin and this is something that I cannot tolerate them.

I will notice here that she’s well aware of the importance of tenses. You will see why later.

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Do we know what slander is? This here above is libel. But you know under the pretence of «free speech» and the fact Johnny Depp is famous they spread the lie Amber Heard was beaten by him. Why? Because she says so. Did any court accepted the accusation? No. Why because she dropped the PRO request before she had to prove she needed it. By dropping it, she made clear she didn’t need it, but that’s detail no?

But, journalists have learned to use the law to their benefit haven’t they?

«In United States law, a public figure is a person such as a politician, celebrity, or business leader. In the context of defamation actions (libel and slander) as well as invasion of privacy, a public figure cannot base a lawsuit on incorrect harmful statements unless there is proof that the writer or publisher acted with actual malice (knowledge of falsity or reckless disregard for the truth). The burden of proof in defamation actions is higher in the case of a public figure.»

Basically, the public figure has less human rights that you and me. This should have made media more careful. Instead, it has made them capable of pushing their current agendas with glee, totally disinterested in the reputation of the people they will destroy.

1. Amber Heard never proved Johnny Depp beat her.
2. Amber Heard’s credibility was destroyed by her own actions and lies.

I repeat lies.

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a.  “I don’t have to; I have to. If I didn’t have a platform, I would stand on my toes,” says Amber. (I’m switching to her first name now because, come on, we’re talking about some heavy shit.) “I have a semifunctioning brain and a semifunctioning limbic system, and as a human being, it is incumbent on me to make the world a better place in any small, insignificant way I can. I’ve always tried to do the right thing. I used everything I was given. I had to make it better for the next person.

I repeat it in case you didn’t read it the first time.

Before Amber Heard made her claims of abuse public knowledge (thus inviting all of us in her private life) she sent the infamous by now but neglected by media extortion letter of hers in which she was basically blackmailing her husband to pay her up so they could have a private and amicable divorce. Making the world a better place wasn’t first priority back then. Only when he refused to pay her it became such an important quest of hers. Her original reason for divorce wasn’t abuse either. Irreconcilable differences transformed to domestic violence when her demands were denied.

Great hero we have here, don’t we?

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These two women believe they have the right to talk in the name of all women. I don’t grant them the right to talk on my behalf. I detest them and their mentality. I detest liars and blackmailers and abusers. And women can be all of that. After all, let’s not forget, like media do, that Ms. Heard was in fact arrested for domestic violence in 2009 and when it became public knowledge her side/or her victim tried to use her sexuality to shame the arresting officer who turned out to be not only a women, not only a homosexual woman, but a homosexual woman who supported abused women. Oooops…. And then she wanted to deleted it from her record when she met Mr. Depp, a wish she was granted.

«After denials and failed attempts to destroy Heard’s credibility, Johnny Depp paid her $7 million.»

Seriously, was it Depp who forced her side to lie about his interest in the charities she has chosen to donate the money?*
Was it Depp who forced her again and again and again to not give her deposition?
Was it Depp who forced her to claim she wanted her day in court while doing her damnest to avoid it?

Allure will probably claim he was. And allure will be lying, but it’s not as if they care. It’s not as if they have any credibility either. I’m sure Johnny Depp tried to destroy that too.

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The idea that she fought to  reach to where she is today (and let’s be honest here, she’s mostly known as Depp’s ex over anything else) or that she was born poor or the other melodramatic nonsense that are written in a guilt-tripping way won’t stop us for questioning the statement she’s a millionaire -because there are her own court documents that debunk the very idea of it. Unless she lied in her court docs when «she tried to take Johnny Depp’s money to give to those in need» she’s not a millionaire- and I also doubt she got more money for Justice League & Aquaman than Gal Gadot did for Wonder Woman)
The court documents can be found in this daily mail article. I loathe to link to daily mail, but it does have the court document, so what can I do?

The one thing I agree with this article is that «there’s not a drop of a victim in this woman«. That’s painfully obvious, no matter how much media and herself try to present her as one.

I mean I can go on about how Amber Heard «didn’t come out«, only she did, about how she «was never in» and remind all of them that she first labeled herself as lesbian and then as bisexual and always, always the victim of «society» and people telling her not to come out as bisexual because it would hurt her career, but that’s irrelevant to me. I can go and on… how she constantly tries to present one thing with words and how her actions prove she’s nothing like that. I’m sorry, but I don’t have to stomach to read the rest of the interview. I already feel myself gagging by all parties involved.

But media love what she presents because her words match the current state of feminism, but in the end if the current state of feminism is Amber Heard then the current state of feminism is fake. And oppressive. Just like media.

So, when people in social media started calling out the article and its lies, Michelle Lee, the editor, took over to defend it. Actually, not to defend it but to attack those who explained how many lies were in the article.

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When people (not Depp stans or anonymous trolls as Michelle Lee called them, but people who have followed the case closely waiting to learn the truth through courts and laws and justice) questioned what was written in the article, Ms. Lee took over to share more lies.

Because why not? It’s feminism we promote, not the truth!

«Donated» money. Let’s remember about tenses. Past tense. As in «it has already happened». It’s also in the article.

Lie one, she hasn’t donated anything yet.

And Ms. Lee knows it.

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Lie two, the money was for the divorce settlement & not for any abuse. You can not settle abuse cases for money. On top of that there were no charges, she had only ask for a restraining order.

Of course, it doesn’t mean the editor of Allure will delete the first tweet. Oh no, no, no. She will let the lie being spread for reasons only she knows. And maybe the rest of the people working in allure know. It needs integrity to admit what you wrote is a lie. It needs dignity and in the face of the current state of feminism we do not care about such values any longer. The lie is more powerful than the truth.

But they don’t leave it there.

No. They have to stop you from calling out their lies

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by making themselves the victim and shaming you. Cool, isn’t it. Everyone can do it. You can do it. You call the person who calls out your lies a «Johnny Depp stan» and state you’re being unfairly attacked and there you have it; you’re a victim. And then you have them asking «why would Amber Heard lie?» I ask «why do you lie?»

I don’t know if anyone called her names for having Heard on their cover. I saw people calling out their lies.

Since I’ve started writing these blog entries about Johnny Depp I’ve been afraid of being called «abuse apologist» and «victim shamer» so I was reluctant to tag them. In the end, my opinion pieces are based on facts, on events that I have watched, lies I’ve seen being said and court documents. There are no lies here written by me. I describe things as they happened. I’m not the one lying. I’m not the one biased. I’m not the one promoting one side of the story, one person due to feminism. It’s not me who should be afraid to be called names. It’s those who lie on repeat. And those who lie on repeat are those who have more power than me, a better platform than me to spread their lies. Those are the oppressors no matter how noble they find their cause.

How difficult is to stick to facts and keep believing her? A lot it seems since they have to lie to support her. Shameful. Disgusting.


Ms. Heard: «But the actress promptly rejected the idea that Depp could do that. In a statement on Thursday, her team said that she “appreciates Johnny Depp’s novel interest in supporting two of her favorite charities” and the actor’s move is “great and unexpected news…
CHLA in 2006
«Johnny Depp embodies the very spirit of the `Courage to Care’ Award because he puts smiles on the faces of thousands of children through his great work on film, and his longtime private advocacy of children and children’s charities is nothing short of inspirational,» says Ms. Fernandez-Farrand.

Children’s Hospital Los Angeles was one of the two favourite charities Amber Heard claimed she would donate money to and appreciated her ex-husband’s novel interest in supporting it, while the same charity had awarded Johnny Depp ten years earlier for his longtime private advocacy of children and children’s charities». To be honest here, Ms. Heard’s problem must have been her inability to understand what «private» means.

Question: How can I believe the other Hollywood scandals when I see media lying so blatantly about information I can easily find on the internet and accept the trial by media method of destroying people?

Answer: I can’t. I want police and courts and justice to decide before I start believing accusations. And the only one to blame is the press.

And if we add other more important issues here, the currest state of media becomes even more problematic.

Trial by media: Chapter Two – Kevin Spacey

Trial by media: the other side of the coin.

The first was Johnny Depp, whom I considered innocent, versus the media.

This one? Yes, not so much. Thank you, media.

But that’s irrelevant.

Do we in all reality need courts and laws, lawyers and judges, some kind of justice delivered by the state?
Or we can provide our own justice to those we consider guilty of a crime?
These questions are in my mind a lot since last year.
It’s painfully obvious that many people don’t trust the police, the law; don’t trust that courts of law actually service justice. These people use social media and/or the press and we can see them regularly calling out the injustices of the world.
However, what makes a state a state? What makes a democracy a democracy? What makes a person innocent or guilty? Is it what each one of us separately believes and then adding the percentage to reach in a conclusion?

I have followed the Johnny Depp case really closely and -as is known to everyone who reads me- I believe the abuse accusations against him were false. But, there are people out there who believe he abused his ex-wife. There are articles written questioning his right to work having deemed him guilty of domestic abuse without a court ruling.

There are cases I haven’t followed like the Michael Jackson or the Billy Cosby. There are people out there who believe both of them were guilty of the accusations against them. And then there are people who will bring up questions and state that maybe things weren’t like that and they were innocent, mostly in regards to Michael Jackson. But even with a little search anyone can find out that even those who accused Bill Cosby were a bit shady at occasions.

I don’t know much about any of those cases. Do I have an opinion? Can I have an opinion?

I don’t know. Were they guilty? Were they innocent?

Truth be told, we don’t know. But the court found Michael Jackson innocent of the accusations, and Bill Cosby’s trial ended in a mistrial. Take a moment and imagine Michael Jackson child molestation accusations coming out today, in the era of social media. Do you think there would be more people believing he was guilty? Do you think there would be more people coming out accusing him of something?

We can only speculate. But the truth is that even though he was found innocent and most of his fans to this day believe in his innocence, his reputation got a hit and he was never able to fully recuperate from those accusations, was he? Even today, there are articles written taking his guilt for granted (sure it’s daily mail, but you know, people do read the daily main and those people do have opinions they pass around as facts and absolute truth).

Maybe in this case no one lies. But the way society/social media/media took the accusation as granted opens paths for people to get accused and instantly found guilty. Is that a fair trial?

On top of that, personally, as far as I’m concerned I think it is a bit scary that as a society we can’t seem to understand simple terms. Making a sexual advance towards a 14 year old is illegal, especially if it results to having consensual (statutory rape) or non consensual sex (rape), but it is not pedophilia. Also, grabbing crotches and other body parts of the person standing/sitting/working/sleeping next to you without consent is creepy, disgusting, illegal, but it is not rape if you back off -angry, sad, humiliated- when they say no. And these are the actions Kevin Spacey has been accused of as we speak. This may change, but so far that’s it. The one event in which the anonymous accuser claims attempted rape was denied by Kevin Spacey’s lawyer.

I, as a Kevin Spacey fan, feel awful if the actions he’s accused of have actually happened. But, at the same time I feel awful that as a society we have to blow these alleged actions out of proportion to justify an out of proportion enragement. It’s as if society/social media/media cannot criticise and be appalled by what have actually been described as assault incidents, but have to make it bigger in order to create a mob ready to lynch someone, in this case Kevin Spacey. We have seen it happening some months ago with the Last Tango in Paris debate which resulted in people believing Marlon Brando literally raped Maria Schneider under Bernando Bertolucci’s direction. They couldn’t be angry over what had actually transpired, so they made the event something different, more repugnant and, truth be told, juicier as well.

Some of the incidents reported -in great detail and in literary artistry if I dare say so- were used for laughs and giggles in parties and among polite society for years. But, quite suddenly they all became evidence of a predatory sexual behaviour. I honestly cannot say how many of the stories are true or not, I cannot divide them between serious and attention seeking, I cannot know if the most serious accusations are filtered from media for further official investigation.

What I can say with an absolute certainty is that Kevin Spacey’s career specifically and life in general as he knew it has ended. And it’s a result of stories shared in media with no proof. To be careful here, the media may have every evidence needed to prove them. However, the public read stories and only stories.

Proof and evidence may be presented later while officials investigate each and every case, but the matter still stands; he got judged and was professionally killed by media.

In this blog entry (ok, in all blog entries), I present the media as some kind of big, bad meanies that want to destroy reputations and lives. That is not always the case. However, I have observed how media treated the Johnny Depp case and how easily they covered, deleted, pushed under the rug everything that didn’t suit the idea that he was an abusive husband, and in the same manner they deleted every record of Amber Heard’s erratic, lying behaviour. So, I think my reservations are quite plausible and understandable. Because the moment you, a common person of the reading audience,  bring different facts than the ones journalists present as true in their attention you are getting blocked and later on ridiculed and called names -such as abuse apologist, or even even better brainless fangirls -by them. I have watched them trying to push their own ideas and opinions as facts for too long to take anything written as fact.

In relation to everything I wrote above, I have to add that even if Mr. Spacey is guilty of everything he’s accused of and more, so far there is no evidence presented as proof of his illegal activities. So, what stops someone to use the same techniques to destroy an enemy’s reputation and life? What stops someone to create a smear campaign, a character assassination approach to eliminate a political theat for example? Because, as we’ve seen, no evidence is needed for the public to contemn someone.

And at this point is where I remember a lawyer stating after they dropped a PRO request that their client «had been vindicated in the court of public opinion». Their client had just proved she wasn’t afraid to actually go after a PRO, but hey! they were vindicated in the court of public opinion.

I don’t know, maybe I am biased in the sense I wish Kevin Spacey is innocent, but the fact is even I have no doubt he’s guilty. And that little detail here contradicts the presumption of innocence which is -or should be- the accused’s basic, human right.

All cases are different, but sometimes «public opinion» gets the wrong victim. And so do the media.
Mass hysteria, vigilantism, lynching is where I see us going from here.

Also make sure you have no enemies and no one hates you….


5 stages of grief. Kevin Spacey

Monday, October 30, 2017

My train of thought changes a lot between yesterday and today….

I am compromised.

I always had a high opinion of… well, my opinion. I thought that I could see an event, a story on its whole and always reach to the correct conclusion and feel OK with myself. One of the reasons I stood so firmly in my opinion that Johnny Depp was innocent was that I was not a fan of his. My liking his work didn’t cloud my judgement because I hadn’t followed his work; I didn’t find him attractive.

So when this morning I woke up to the news that «Kevin Spacey tried to seduce a 14 year old boy» was a hit. Because I do like Kevin Spacey, because I am a fan, because I do find him attractive. And that has been the case since I was a teen.

So what gives?

I tried to find excuses. First, the story is from 31 years ago. Not exactly news. That would help so much to shove it under the rug.
Then I remembered all the rumours that I didn’t want to believe. I remembered defending and supporting him because they were rumours. Apparently though they weren’t rumours.

Truth be told, I never cared about his sexual orientation. I -most of the times- project and consider celebs to be as uninterested in sex as I am. Which, yeah… big-time-projection. Which he helped with his protection of his personal life.

Then I read his tweet. Again, I thought it was an extremely brave thing to do. He apologised. I remember reading an interview of his some 15 years ago (already about a decade old) where he had talked about drugs and alcohol. So, yeah I believe he was drunk. I can believe he was high too. But, he apologised and it’s more than most people do nowadays. See President Trump, for example.

Sex and drugs and scandals is what Hollywood was built on. Nothing new here. Only, this time is a favourite actor of mine. And I am as much disillusioned as much as I don’t want to believe he’s a sexual predator. Then I read Antony Rapp’s telling of the event. (The fact it’s on Buzzfeed doesn’t help, because quite frankly I hate buzzfeed), and…. I don’t know if it’s just as honest as Spacey’s tweet. Again, I question the victim for reasons I don’t understand. I can’t understand what he has to earn by making this public now. Is it to earn something? Or is it to find an inner peace? Or…? Or…?

I end up with the conclusion I don’t care what happened 31 years ago. Which makes me feel disgusted with myself. However, I can’t change that. Even now, for some reason, I find Spacey’s tweet more honest than the Rapp buzzfeed interview. Something is wrong with me, most probably. I permit other cases, I permit personal likes, I permit emotional attachment to a favourite actor cloud my judgement.

I don’t like it.

But, there’s nothing I can do about it.

What makes my reaction worse for me is that if more people come out saying they were assaulted by Kevin Spacey, I will be forced to change my mind. I will be forced to accept reality. I hope there won’t be more people coming out. It doesn’t change what happened to Mr. Rapp in any way, but I do hope I can still keep some semblance of my previous affection to Kevin Spacey as a human being. It will be about me, it’s what I’m saying. And I hate the fact I make this case about me and my feelings.

And it is about him as a human being. As an actor he’s as good today as he was yesterday and that is not going to change if 100 people come out accusing him. As an actor, he’s great.

What about a human being?


And even more important? What about me? What kind of human being am I? Am I as selfish and insensitive to think of my own feelings more than those of an alleged victim? I sure am. It comes in contrast with what I believed about myself.

Just another thing I need to work with myself. I recognise I am part of the problem.

All in all, American Beauty is still one of my favourite movies and Verbal Kint one of the best characters in cinema; except, today character and actor seem awfully similar.




So today, there is news: House of Cards will run its last season next year (is it cancelled? would it have been the last season either way? news are not particularly clear. Of course, netflix will use the accusation to make itself look «good«. See? They don’t support a pedophile!!! Good people, all around. And, International Emmys tweeted their decision to not honour Kevin Spacey as the plan was because of the «recent events». By recent event, they mean something that took place 31 years ago. Because they are «good» people too. I would guess.

And I’m somewhere between being depressed and being angry.

Hollywood made me love this man for his talent, for his charisma, for he seemed to be a genuinely «good» person whose foundation helped young creative minds. Everyone loved him, everyone praised him, everyone was his friend. And all it took was one public accusation of an event from 31 years ago to throw him to the wolves.

There isn’t much to think. He either didn’t do it or he did do it. And for the sake of this article, I’ll go with the alleged sexual advance to a 14 year old teenager being 100% truth, drunk or not, I don’t care. And for about 50% of the rumours I’ve read through the years being true, as well.

How on Earth didn’t they know? How on Earth am I supposed to believe they didn’t know. How on Earth am I supposed to believe that not all of them are the same as Kevin Spacey is accused to be? If I am to believe -like they did- that he made a sexual advance to a 14 year old kid so easily I also have to believe they all knew. They are all as guilty as he is. So, not good person comes out of it, no matter how much they try to distance themselves from him.

Hollywood seems too eager to get rid of a man who was one of its favourite sons just a few days ago. Hey, don’t touch, it burns. Everyone has or knows a story. But the only one responsible is Kevin Spacey. As if in 1986, Kevin Spacey was a huge name no one could touch. If you can touch him today and throw him to the rubbish can why couldn’t they do it 30 years ago? 25 years ago?

If Kevin Spacey is so bad, so is about 98% of Hollywood and isolating him now that he’s down is crocodilian tears; it’s hypocrisy, it’s fake…. it’s saving their own butts that may be worse than Spacey and Weistein (again, assuming everything said about him is true) put together.

The «system» is not Kevin Spacey; everyone can tell by the way they delete him so easily.

Some of us use movies as more than 2 hours of entertainment. For some of us, these people are inspiration, are a push to try harder, to create better, to reach certain goals. For some of us, Kevin Spacey’s work has saved our lives when we were down and felt numb and lost. And it is too much to put on one man whom we don’t know, but Hollywood helped dramatically at it. It still helps; it still creates role models and inspirational icons.

So, screw you, Hollywood!


If it’s true:

I will blame Kevin Spacey & with him, I will blame the kid’s parents, I will blame drugs and alcohol, I will blame those who were at the party. Because Kevin Spacey alone isn’t the system. And he sure wasn’t the «system» when he was 26 years old and no one really knew him outside of Broadway.




Some details:

Making a pass at a 14 year old boy is disgusting.

It’s not pedophilia. It’s not rape. It is statutory rape if you have sex with a person of that age. It is rape if you rape them.
Basically, so far we could have statutory rape that didn’t happen because the kid got up and left on his own. But, what was the intention?
It’s disgusting as it is (if it’s true, but I guess we will never know, will we?), no need to add «pedophilia» in it to make it somehow bigger, dear social media.

I may be adding to this post as more come to light. But I’m not sure I will write another entry for this matter. I’m sad, I’m angry, I’m disappointed by many including myself.


Or you can always read my previous entries about «innocent until proven guilty». about «scapegoats» or «trials by media». They fit in this case too, except for the details.

The presumption of innocence is still a thing in the civilised world.


Edit: Production on «House of Cards» suspended after star Kevin Spacey was accused of sexual assault against a minor 

Edit #1

Wednesday, November 1, 2017

I’m constantly going between OK he’s guilty (to being attracted to a 14 year old) to maybe he isn’t? To what exactly is he guilty of? To the rumours that he’s coming a bit too hard to the men he’s attracted to? To be sexually attracted to minors? So far, and to my knowledge no criminal act has taken place.

Morality wise? Hey! It’s Hollywood!

I will accept that Kevin Spacey is guilty. Let’s hang him for all I care. I’ve lost my apetite (and let me tell you, with my eating disorder, it is not good for my health) since I’ve read about the news. Because he was an inspiration, he was someone who managed to succeed when all odds were against him. In the grant scheme of things, my broken heart doesn’t matter.

What it does matter in my humble opinion are two things.

1. Say Spacey is guilty ok? He could deny the event because there was no evidence. It happened 30+ years ago. There’s no evidence. Also, there was no physical harm done so even if there was an investigation back then there would be no evidence. But, I take his statement as an admission that it might have happened. What if he had denied it? What if he was innocent? What if it was an accident and the years passed had turned something innocent into something illegal (having sex with a minor is statutory rape, even if the minor agrees to it, and I’m not even certain what the age of consent for gay men was in the mid 80s).

But let’s keep Spacey out of it for a while. How does an innocent person defends themselves against an accusation of this kind for an event that took place 30 years ago? Is everyone guilty by default? Do they protect themselves with a defamation lawsuit? Wouldn’t that be considered «victim-shaming»? At that point is one person’s against other people’s word and the moment someone is accused, they are fair game in social media. Their side doesn’t matter; their point of view doesn’t matter.

They are guilty and cannot prove their innocence. Because there’s no court, there’s no justice to rule anything.

So, what is a lynch mob? What can be described as witch-hunts in the 21st century?

2. As I mentioned yesterday, movie and theatre industry in general and their attitude towards these accusations. If Kevin Spacey is guilty of the accusation thrown at him, I find it impossible to believe they didn’t know. I find it impossible to believe they instantly believe the accusation without a second thought and instantly take matters to basically elimininate Kevin Spacey from their ranks. Netflix suspends production of House of Cards, The Old Vic made a rather unconvincing official statement about the alleged incident.


Statement on behalf of The Old Vic

The Old Vic would like to respond to recent media reports by making it clear that we are deeply dismayed to hear the allegations levied against Kevin Spacey, who was Artistic Director from 2004–2015.

Inappropriate behaviour by anyone working at The Old Vic is completely unacceptable. We aim to foster a safe and supportive environment without prejudice, harassment or bullying of any sort, at any level, as set out in our joint statement with the theatre industry on 23 October. We want our employees to feel confident, valued and proud to be part of The Old Vic family. Any behaviour we become aware of which contravenes these goals will not be tolerated.

If you have been connected with The Old Vic or in our employment and feel you have a complaint that you were unable to raise, please contact us on Any experience shared will be treated in the utmost confidence and with sensitivity. We have appointed external advisors to help us deal with any information received.

People in social media want House of Cards to continue its production without Kevin Spacey with Robin Wright in the lead role. Interesting proposal that exonorates everyone else. Because his colleagues didn’t know, am I right? His behaviour went unnoticed for the half a decade they worked together. Yes? What? No?

If Kevin Spacey is guilty by default then the whole industry is guilty as well.

That at least is my very humble opinion.

Rosie O’ Donnell attacked Kevin Spacey on twitter for some weird (IMO) reason.


I also didn’t know hitting on «many, many, many men» is a crime.

My apologies, but I also think the LGBT community is angry at him for not coming out sooner so he could be the community’s spokesperson when he was at the high of his career? And now, it’s the right time for the community to take its revenge.

And I wonder, say he had come out when he won his second Academy Award for American Beauty (shut up, Hollywood didn’t know about him being a creepy gay man hitting on many, many, many men back then). How that would make the allegations against him any better now?

I’m confused.

No I’m not confused. I see hypocrisy left, centre and right.


I could link to tweets and articles, but I’ve read most of those before I’ve attempted to sleep and didn’t keep them. Truth be told, I don’t care enough to go searching again….

PS. The presumption of innocence is still a thing.